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Writing your own wedding vows
By Jodie Birch · Independent celebrant
How to start, what to avoid, and how to make them feel like you.
Start small. Write down the everyday moments you love about your person. The way they make tea. The way they handle a hard day. The way they laugh at you, kindly.
From there, gather a few promises that mean something. Avoid making them too general — 'I'll always love you' is true, but 'I'll always make the first cup of coffee' is yours.
Read them aloud before the day. Time them. And, if you'd like, send them to me — I'll help you shape them so they land beautifully on the day.